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Let’s start this off with the email I got from James who just signed up on one of our programs – TSL Online – Virtual
I really appreciate this email because it is so honest, and it is something many men go through. The answer is not to judge them, but to move them into a socially & sexually healthy lifestyle. Like many men, that a is really what James wants.
Hey Steve,
It’s James. I was sitting here doing some catch up work and came across a part where you said that its not about controlling people or manipulation, but about connecting with people and genuinely liking to be social. That just hit deep with me because I still find myself being angry in everyday social situations. Its kind of a dark place but I’ve kind of always wanted to control women and manipulate them. It didn’t start out that way, and I’m not some womanizer, just not having a bunch of success can make you kind of bitter ya know. I guess I always saw it as my way of a kind of “revenge”…on any girl that had ever turned me down to have the knowledge and know how to finally make her want me. Im going along and realizing, like you say often, people you don’t have a place for will find there way out of your life and the people you can connect with will be the ones that stay. I wont lie and say that I don’t think I’ve missed on some great girls because I had NO skills though…lol, but hey, that’s why I’m here.Anyway, just trying to participate man. Ive been working ridiculous hours but I havent fallen off. Sorry for the long email..again.
Thanks,
James
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It not only inspired this episode, but it is an honesty and a perspective we need to share more. Rather than constantly judging everything we should be working towards a solution –
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After working in the Seduction Industry for the past decade I have seen more hate coming from men and women about sex than I knew was possible. It makes sense, I’ve had my own experience with it, but I am amazed at how little we have moved towards an answer of connection. We seem to only create a bigger divide. One undeniable lesson that I learned from living the Sexual Life is that when I am being an expression of myself and connecting that to the world around me, I do not hate, I do not judge and I see the beauty in what I was once confused and frustrated by. Sadly I don’t see enough of a solution to the anger towards sex men and women have. I see the opposite.
Connection is the what brings us all into balance. Connection is what makes our expression have value. This is what TSL teaches – How to express and be your true self and connect that to the world around you. Connection heals all, and in order to do all that we need to stop trying to connect via, blame, judgment and anger. It just doesn’t work that way.
When looking at one man’s anger, hate and resentment towards women without judgment we can see how it can transform and build connection. We have built so much fear and disconnect in order to have a social life, we have a greater relationships with our lists of whats right and wrong and less of a connection with humanity. When you live like that you will hear the voice of frustration that can only come from disconnect. Disconnection, hate and resentment doesn’t know a race or a class. It is the voice that we all have within us. It gets loudest when we are not able to be what we were born to be, and we have limited that. Whether that ‘happened to us’ or we created it, if our voice of hate comes to the surface it is ultimately our responsibility to calm it down and lear how to live with it. Happiness is our birthright, connection is our birthright and sexual satisfaction is our birthright.
When we can understand where James’ frustration, anger and resentment towards women comes from rather than judge it we can see the solution. This is where we often get it wrong. What is most important about this is, when offered another solution James chooses connection over the anger. This is how we teach at TSL and why we teach in this was as well. We also believe in cultivating a strong men’s group and support system while learning to live as social and sexual expressions. We pride ourselves on this. There is no doubt on the road and path to sex and connection we will build up massive resentments, we will have our hearts broken, we will hurt ourselves and others. We need a way to decompress. The last thing men and women need is judgment. We ultimately need compassion. We are building our sex lives on desperation and expecting it to work. Both men and women. We wonder why we fight. We wonder why we are a part of all these movements trying to make sense out of the urge to connect that can never be controlled by a mass. However it can be shaped and connected individually by you to be you. And when it connects to another person, and you let your guard down and allow yourself and expression to be changed by another that is where all the great virtues of being a man or women start to happen. In fact that is when you stop being what you’re supposed to be and you start being ‘you’.
If you like what you have read and you want to start that path there are a few recommendations I have for you –
1 – Subscribe to BANG RADIO! – IT’S FREE!
iTunes or Stitcher and of course YouTube
2 – Take a look at theBetter Man’s Guide to Dating & Lifestyle – It’s a 9 part audio series we have to do exactly what we are talking about here.
3 – When the time is right join us on TSL Online – the version James is on is the Virtual Course. TSL Online is a full blown 90 day intensive that is offered in FULL SERVICE or VIRTUAL formats.
Finally,
As in every BANG RADIO! Episode we give something away. Today it is the Guide to Good Sex.
This is a 3 part PDF series that breaks down, the Sexual Mindsets, Techniques and ‘Stuff people don’t want to talk about’ so you can have a GREAT SEX LIFE!
Click the fancy button and get it emailed directly to you!
Questions
Shoot em my way – Steve@theSexualLife.com
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Steve Mayeda
