THE DICK PIC
How You Can Always Send It & Have Better Sex
Let me be frank with you here, if you know how to send a dick pic you should always send one. It is the best tool for getting sexual fast and having good sex. You will have women loving your dick and wanting to have sex with you in ways that you never thought possible.
If you don’t know ho two send a dick pick and the entire process of it, you will HIGHLY offend people.
This is a breakdown of how to send a dick pic so you have more sex, better sex and not be offensive in the process.
It doesn’t matter if you just met someone and it is your first text or you have been texting them and want to make it sexual. It doesn’t matter if you have been dating, this Podcast/Article will help you. The way that this article is written is also so that in ALL all situations you can send it. Most articles are the ‘do’s and don’t’s’. You can always make it work.
There is also a brand new TSL Quick Guide that is all about Text Messaging and Instant Messaging. There is a section on the ‘Dick Pic’ as well, breaking down more thoroughly what is in this post. I would HIGHLY recommend downloading it. It is free and will be emailed to you.
Getting Sexual With Text Messaging – A Quick Guide
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FIRST THE ARGUMENT
Why Sending a Dick Pic is Offensive?
If we are going to make sending a dick pic work then we need to know what specifically offends people about about it.
Many women and men, as well as fellow dating coaches frown upon this. It can be considered harassing, offensive and degrading. However that is never your goal. Your goal is to get sexual and turn a girl on. Many dating coaches say, ‘there are better ways to do this…’
Of course there are, but if you know what you’re doing you won’t offend people or degrade them with a picture of your dick. And when and if you do offend people you can repair it (we will show you). Once you repair that relationship, things will be good, in fact better than they were to begin with.
Let’s take a step back from the argument and break this down a little. Here are things about sex that guys should understand to make this all work.
THINGS WOMEN LOVE ABOUT DICK
- Women love dick
- Women love it when they make a dick turned on, hard and orgasm
- Women love attention from men
- Women love sexual attention from men
But wait…why do they consider it harassing?
Because if it is done wrong it WILL be harassing.
THINGS WOMEN HATE ABOUT DICK
- Women hate dick when it is not invited
- Women hate a hard dick if they’re not engaged in the process of making it hard
- Women hate attention from men that is unwarranted
- Women hate sexual attention that is unwarranted
If you screw this up, this is how you will offend people.
And just to be clear the real answer and breakdown here is ‘how can you get a woman engaged with your dick without being offensive so she will love it?’
It is easy…
STEP 1
TSL Quick Guide to Getting Sexual with Text Messaging
Seriously Download the TSL Quick Guide
It will clearly break everything down for you. I’d really start there.
It will make EVERYTHING a lot easier
STEP 2
Taking the Pic 
There’s a few things here that I am going to give you to experiment with, but these factors you cannot deviate from.
- YOUR DICK NEEDS TO BE HARD
- MAKE IT LOOK GOOD
- THE BIGGER THEN BETTER
Now let’s go into a few things that guys have had work for them.
The Upward Angle – I know a lot of guys that have made an art out of this and one confident thing is rather than shooting from the top they shoot from the bottom up. If you have a smaller dick it will make it look bigger, but if you have a big dick it will look painfully huge (that has pros and cons).
You can cut out your face or leave it in. It doesn’t matter much. I usually side with the face in it to make it more personal. As we will get to making things personal is the key to this all. All offense will come from you making it impersonal.
The Downward Angle – This isn’t bad either. But do it right. Make sure it is hard and looks big. If you’re a smaller dicked dude, go for the closer shots. If you have a big dick go for the wider shots. The key here is detail that they can notice about it.
Selfie Mirror Shot – This is also something that people find useful. However it can also make the picture less about the dick. In most of the dick pics my female friends have shown me the guys look totally narcissistic in these photos. You want it to be about the dick and not how ‘cool’ you look. This is purely a sexual move.
IT HAS TO BE HARD
Look I keep saying this, but if your dick isn’t hard don’t send it. It should be ‘about to cum’ hard. In fact you can do it after you cum, or at the point of cumming (will explain in a bit). Make sure it looks hard, make sure it looks good.
STEP 3
The Set Up
If you screwed up and sent the dick pick without setting it up – jumps to Step 5
If you’re going to be sending Dick Pics this is the way to do it. Of course there will be times when you just send it, or send it in some joking way, but what makes this way work best is you GET SEXUAL before hand.
To give you a brief definition, to move from social to sexual you need to have intent exchanged. ‘I want you sexually and you want me sexually’ needs to happen. Unfortunately this doesn’t get verbalized literally. You need to do it between the lines.
Fortunately it is easy to do.
When you get a girl’s number your whole goal should be to get her sexually interactive with you.
You have so many advantages to make this work. However one of the best advantages you can have is a good skill set in meeting women. If you can’t hold your own in a conversation or show who you are in the best possible way, nothing will help in terms of texting. However, those are fixes you can definitely work on…so DO IT.
Right off the bat I am going to start seeding for the voice of the woman I am texting.
I usually start with a shotgun of 2 different voicings.
- Banter (Fun)
- Emotional
- Sexual
- Logistical
In brief
Banter – Fun playful text. Like what they teach in pick up. Push Pull, Memes your general reactive stuff that is fun and somewhat socially acceptable. This is the least powerful form.
Emotional – This is more specific. Is she someone who is communicating with her emotions and in what way. The best part about this is that is it relationship building. For instance anytime someone is communicating with their emotions there is an expectation of how you are supposed to respond. That is a good thing. That is a relationship or role you can predict and interact with. If it a situation you don’t like, stop texting, if it is a role you like continue.
Sexual – This means you bring up sexuality in some way (usually humor or making a big break) then transitioning into exchanging sexual intent.
Logistics – How to meet up. This is stuff like scheduling and so on. It is how all men wish text messaging was. To the point. Some women communicate in this way.
I am going to look for at least 2 of those in my initial text.
These days I send something kinda plain and dumb like this –
“I am Steve, I am standing in front of you texting this now – You should text me later to add to my tumbler album – ‘This Happened in the Bathroom Today’”
Now I am going to see what she responds to. Will she respond to the funny banter side of it? Will she respond in a way that moves into the ‘bathroom’ stuff. This could show some sexuality. Or perhaps she is one of those rare girls that texts logistically.
Let’s say she texts back –
“Bathroom pics!!!! I want to see”
This is basically an open door for me to go sexual. I could bet on it. Within a few texts I could get her in a completely sexual mode of texting.
Let’s say she sends back –
“Hahaha I bet you have a tumbler girls you pick up at the bar”
This is somewhat negative, but easy to recover. 1) she shows that she doesn’t think I am seeing her uniquely. 2) She is communicating with some banter but I’d go emotional on this one.
Let’s say she texts back –
“Ok ‘Steve Standing right in front of me’…it was nice meeting you.”
She really didn’t give me much here. So Banter
Let’s say she texts back –
“Great to meet you! That text made my night 🙂 .”
Emotional is where I would go. This is because 1) Something you said affected her, 2) She told you about it. Not that big of a deal but I am trying to read how they communicate here.
I know this sounds hard but it is really easy. The easiest way to make it easy is to start texting girls in this way. You will learn and pickup on it quick.
Shotgun a Text
“Hey I was just thinking about you…kinda weird story 😉 How are you doing?”
What will she respond to? The ‘weird story’ or ‘how she is doing’ or something else?
If you are not learning how to text people by reading how they communicate you’re wasting time with templates that will be inconsistent and wrong more than they are right.
If we go back to the original text we were working on. I shotgunned for something sexual in a funny way ‘Bathroom’ stuff and she gives me any of these response –
“Bathroom pics!!! I wanna see”
“You’re crazy. Now I’m scare I gave you my number.”
“Oh yeah? Do I really want to know what you’re doing in the bathroom?”
“Hahahaha you’re too funny…find me later”
All of these have something where she bought into the idea of the bathroom being a little bit taboo or ‘possibly’ having a sexual component in it. That is why I brought it up. This would read to me that she is willing to joke about sex, dialog about sex and also she values sex. Being comfortable with sexuality is key.
If she gives me a response like –
“Hey ‘Steve standing right in front of me’. It was nice to meet you”
I would probably shotgun again or just go on with some form of Banter or Emotional thread. This isn’t bad. However if the road to sexuality isn’t there I will keep trying here and there, but not push it too hard.
If the door is open like in the examples above I will go for it HARD!
Let’s say I got any of those 4 responses back listed above I might send something really brazen like this –
“Hey STOP TEXTING me right now! I see your name pop up and it might give me an erection while taking a shit…and that is not good”
But I also understand most people aren’t a brazen as me. So let’s send something a little more tame –
“Hmmm…you get my sense of humor. A smile just went off inside me :)”
There’s 2 things going on in that text which is going more on the emotional side. 1) You get my sense of humor, which is somewhat bonding. In the Texting PDF we talk about making things personal, and that text is going for that. 2) The smile thing is a very emotional and personal thing. ‘Something you did made me happy’ or affected me. If I were to get any responses from that text that were at all favorable I would put that girl in the category of ‘she’s open to date’ and ‘she’s open to sex’. The dating part because of the emotional level texts and the sex part because of the response to the first text.
You need to learn how to read people and you can only get that through experience.
Of course texting has so many variables, but I am going to give you one example of getting sexual through some the sexual road and emotional road.
Let’s say we just sent –
“Hmmm…you get my sense of humor. A smile just went off inside me :)”
You will usually get a very plain response back, and that is a good thing. You just said she affected a very deep side of you. If she accepts that in any way that is saying a lot. I might send after whatever response I get something to bring it back down to earth.
“Hey, sorry…I’m not always this crazy, but it really was nice meeting you. I don’t meet people like you all the time.”
The whole point of this is to personalize it. If you ever go too far in any way (not just sexually) you need to make yourself human again. This is how you do it. It is a great model to work from if you’re someone who pushes like that.
She will most likely respond with something cautious but real and can end the text convo.
“Yeah it was cool to talk to you too.”
You should then rely with something that engages them personally.
“So do you always bring that crazy side out of people you meet or is it just me?”
Her reply “No just you”
“Look my favorite part of meeting you was you actually reminded me of a really close friend I had growing up. That means we will either really get along or hate each other completely…I want to kind out…”
“Hmmm, you want to find out huh…”
The goal in this exchange was to bring her back down a little bit from the shock I gave her and then give her an opportunity to flirt. Anytime I get that sort of open-door-ambiguity from a girl I got sexual again. Things like ‘So you wanna find out huh???’ or ‘Really…why don’t you tell me what you want?’, these are green lights from me to get sexual in a way that is personal. I will start to point out personal thoughts of her and myself.
“You don’t want to know what I was thinking when I was really talking to you.”
If I get any response back from this neutral or going with it, I am good to go. All I need to do is set up a date. It is literally whatever I can do to get that date is the best plan. But in this case, let’s talk about sending a Dick Pic.
I might then send something like –
“You’re making me hard right now, it’s embarrassing me…”
Once again any response back from that that is neutral or going with it I’d move to STEP 4
Examples of a good to neutral reply might be –
- “Mmmm, where are you? Tell me if people can see you?”
- “OMG I am at work right now, you’re crazy”
- “Hot”
There are all sorts of variable in here but I would say, download the PDF and get 3 or 4 girls numbers and start playing with this stuff.
STEP 4
Send the Dick Pic
Just send it! If you have a good set up establishing that she has made you hard you have an open door. No she doesn’t need to ask for it, nor does it need to be prefaced with permission. In the set up above, I made it so I am surprising her with the dick pick but I know she is turned on. In many cases guys send the dick pic without setting it up and they get No Response or a Negative Response. This is not great but you have got to learn how to recover. If you do recover it is a GREAT sign.
In fact anytime you send a dick pic, set up or no set up you’re going to most likely encounter resistance. This is a good thing.
STEP 5
Resistance
Resistance is a natural phase of sexual escalation. There is a wide degree of resistance –
GET THE FUCK AWAY – You should Leave
THAT WASN’T COOL, BUT…. – You have a definite chance once you recover
I’M UNCOMFORTABLE MAKE ME COMFORTABLE – You’re so in. Don’t see this as a ‘NO’
So let’s go back to that list of things women hate about dick.
THINGS WOMEN HATE ABOUT DICK
- Women hate dick when it is not invited
- Women hate a hard dick if they’re not engaged in the process of making it hard
- Women hate attention from men that is unwarranted
- Women hate sexual attention that is unwarranted
These all have to do with shame, using someone or ruining a reputation. This is the problem. This is what you need to make clear you weren’t doing.
If you get a No Response after Setting it Up then you screwed something up down the line. If you didn’t set it up it is common to get a No Response or someone very Angry with you. Now if they blocked you, then there’s no coming back from that, and you should learn your lesson – SET IT UP!
First thing I would do to a no response of a negative response would be –
“Hey I am sorry, I totally offended you, didn’t mean to do that. If you want to delete me or block me I understand but will be very sad.”
The real key in that is “If you ant to delete me or block me I understand but will be very sad”. This will most likely get forgiveness. Here’s what you don’t want to do afterwards –
- DO NOT GET IN AN ARGUMENT ABOUT WHY IT WAS BAD
- DO NOT TRY AND EXPLAIN YOURSELF
- DO NOT GO SEXUAL UNTIL SHE BRINGS IT BACK UP
These all empower whatever drama she has around it. Here’s the thing, you want to move to Normal texting, Banter or Emotional and then keep trying to meet up. It is that simple. In some ways it can be more simple than everything else. This is why if you Shock someone with a dick pic as your first text and can recover from that it is a fast road to sex….however, I DO NOT recommend that.
But if you get to a hardline of resistance you can catapult very quickly to sex if you meet up.
If you do get really sexual over text and you do meet up, don’t bring up sex, wait for them to do it, or get to a place you can have sex. This will build up MASSIVE tension and give you little to no resistance when actually sexually escalating.
Disclaimer – To all the Reddit and hardcore PUA guys, let me explain. This does not mean that you need to assault her with something offensive. This means you need to be willing to make things sexual and learn the skill to calming down a woman’s personal sexuality and having it be an expression of them. The PUA community has pretty much proven that is can create a community of social misfits reliant on bing assholes to empower themselves. Don’t be that guy, everyone will hate you, and you won’t have good sex.
STEP 6
Meet Up
All texting is pointless if you can’t meet up.
As stated above if you get sexual over text you shouldn’t stay that way. Lay off, have some normal texting after. Too much sexual stuff blows you out of the conversation. It will make the girl think – “I wanted to fuck this guy but he’s just about the sex…fuck him”. Guys may not understand this but it is the biggest turn off and disappointment to women. Don’t be that guy.
You should meet up as soon as possible. I always made it a point to do some within the week, no longer than 2 weeks.
I always made my dates simple I put to gather a package where you can learn about the best Dating Templates & Sexual Escalation plus some other awesome stuff. Just do that. I would in particular do the ‘Pre Date’ it is the 2nd Template in the Guide – Click Here to Download the PDFs
Then I would act totally casual, not bring anything up sexually or what we texted about, unless she does. If she does I would just joke about it and bring the conversation back to normal and the date back to fun.
As soon as possible I would get to her place or mine and then Escalate. If you’re familiar with TSL’s approach then all I need is to get the kiss and I will get a close. Here’s that package I put together you can download for FREE. Click Here to Download the PDFs
Then you have sex…You’re on your own for now buddy…
Now go do it!
Look guys,
Sending a dick pic is one of the BEST things you can do it you want good sex. It is pretty simple to do and the big taboo around it is around all the guys screwing it up. Now you don’t need to be that guy.
I would seriously recommend downloading the PDF – TSL Quick Guide to Getting Sexual with Text Messaging
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Steve
Questions – Steve@thesexuallife.com
