By Steve Mayeda
An excerpt from
TSL Online Lesson 2 – The Anatomy of Attraction
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From Lesson 2 the Anatomy of Attraction – pg 12
The Myth of Value
Attention vs Attraction
My buddy Jason lived in a van. He would drive around the country and see bands play, work odd jobs and get laid. In fact he would get laid a lot. I would be pressed to say that I knew anybody that got laid more than him at time. We all have our high points, but let’s just say Jason had a lot of those high points.
He had very little, was a pretty clean person but he never acted like anything he wasn’t. What he did know was how to do was seduce women. He was heavy into NLP and charismatic, he was no doubt a sexual man, and not afraid to be that. It would not be a stretch to say that Jason was the opposite of what the Dating and Seduction Industry said you needed to be to meet women, and he was better than everyone I knew in that industry. He was better at meeting women, seducing them and even getting them to take care of him. When people are trying to sell you in this industry they always talk about these crazy sexual experiences with women. Jason had those, regularly. Threesomes, Multiple Long Term Relationships and everything under the sun. In fact for years Jason eventually moved out of his ‘Van’ lifestyle and lived in an Apartment, in the same building I too had an apartment. He never paid rent, one of his women paid rent. Jason was the opposite of a Pick Up Artist, he was a Seducer and he ultimately taught me the difference between the 2. A Pick Up Artist is a performer seeking validation and a Seducer loves women and exchanges with them. A few of the fundamentals of being a Seducer meant you had to get rid of your animosity towards women as well as know and express yourself.
He never did this to achieve some level of acceptance from guys online in the PUA (pick up artist) Industry, he did this because he loved women, and they loved him. Jason also came up with one of the best speeches I have ever seen from anyone in the industry. When I saw this speech he gave it in Austin, and then a week later he gave the same speech in Sweden for the 21 Convention. I think the Austin Version was better, but here is the one given in Sweden – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wiQm1PhCc2U
His name was Jason Savage and he was one of the many examples of guys who knew that Myth of ‘value’ or ‘social value’. One’s ‘social value’ had nothing to do with sex. Read his blog here – read his blog here http://gonesavage.blogspot.com/, he hasn’t updated it in years, but its some solid stuff.
Anyone who tells you that social value or value turns women on has no understanding of sex and the sexual nature of woman, themselves and humanity. I would also say that anyone who decided to sleep with me because of my social value would be someone I probably wouldn’t like, eliciting an experience I wouldn’t like.
In my entire experience in the Seduction industry I have been fortunate to have a constant thread of mentors teaching me this. The key to turning a woman on, making friends, and having the best sex of my life had nearly nothing to do with –
- Demonstrating higher value
- Social proof
- The clothes I had on
- The fake stories about my life
But having the best sex, with the best women and having the best adventures had everything to do with –
- Me Asserting Who I Was
- Being Sexual
- Wanting to Elicit that Woman’s Sexuality
- Escalating sexually with that woman rather than ‘on that woman’
Those age old PUA tactics value based got me ‘attention’ and ‘reactions’. They have nothing to do with exchange, turning anybody on or anything to do with sex, fulfillment and being a human.
I will always say that it doesn’t matter how I look, how well groomed I am or whatever situation life has given me, I can always meet women I like and find attractive. Why? because ‘social value’ does not matter. Connecting, rapport and seduction matters, because we were made for them.
In TSL Online we are not learning how to build a false front of value, but we are learning how to be proud of ourselves and knowing that the value is in the expression of that value. Imagine having women, friends and lovers interacting with you directly. Image women having sex with you for you, orgasming for you and loving you. This is what we learn, live and do at TSL.
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- The Nature of Seduction – The true path of Seduction and Application
- The Nature of Escalation Part 1 & 2 – The Emotional, Psychological and Physical Path to Turning a Woman on and having the Best Sex of Your Life
For now –
Be Social
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Steve
Pick-up, PUA, Methods to get the girl, scarcity mind-sets, this kind of crazy talk can create patterns in people similar to a dog chasing his tail… Around and around and around in circles you go… Until you finally take that next step and explore your own personal value as a human being, lumps, bumps and all… it’s no mystery… Ask Steve about grounding and rapport cycles… find out how you can share your own life, who you really are… even the stuff most PUA’s say you have to hide… in the end you’ll be in a better place. That’s the simple truth “learning to be yourself,” it isn’t a parlor trick and find yourself going out and meeting new people.
Hey Thanks TaiRuiKe,
It is always good to hear from you. I think the original idea of PUA, or Pick Up revolved around a good idea of being a man that could be good with women. Being a man that had a life full of adventure and excitement. Kind of like the whole James Bond thing. However, somehow it distorted into this other thing. It was like a bunch of guys with no identity looking for one desperately. It became sort of twisted and completely away fromt he idea of being good with women into taking and dominating women as an identity.
I think there is nothing wrong with wanting sex or being sexual, but there is something wrong with people thinking they own sex.
This is what TSL Online is all about, Expressing yourself so that you can have the people that are best for you be sexual with you!
Man I really really enjoyed that talk. The thing that kills me the most about the PUA community is the fake identity bs. When I watched Jason’s video I realized all of the other stuff that was bs too. I used to be all into the PUA community 3-4 years ago. Then something told me that I was selling myself out and wasn’t being me. I eventually got into a relationship that was started because of all the pick up manipulation and what not. Needless to say it ended very ugly. I’ve told you a few bits and pieces on the phone a few months back. Now that I am single again I am trying not to fall into my old ways.
Yeah man,
I should put up the audio of Jason’s speech he did in Austin right before the Sweden Speech, I think it is better. He clarified many things that had frustrated me for years that I couldn’t articulate. In any case, Jason is a true genius in that realm. I can tell you it was always great hanging out with him. I tell people all the time, I’d rather hang with Savage for an hour just shooting the shit than any other celebrity I can think of.
His philosophies were a big influence on TSL Online and the entire Sexual Life Philosophy. Good to hear form you man. Thanks for posting on this!
Steve
There it is. TSL is about living life and loving women as a strong, balanced, seductive man. All of this is based on knowing who we are, knowing what we value, and knowing where we’re going. The pick-up community knows there is something wrong. They go around now chanting ‘authenticity’ but they don’t have a clue what ‘be yourself’ really means. I am surprised that you published the identity PDF. No worries though. I’m sure it will be obsolete when we develop the next generation of identity discovery. I am really enjoying that whole James Bond kind of thing. If you are looking to live a man’s life, you really should get hooked up with TSL. I’m lovin’ life.
Very well put Jim! Man, I think I need to write an article about some of the points you made when it comes to Living Life and Authenticity.
Happy Bday too man!!!!
Inspiring as always.
And a straight attack at one of the biggest hobby horses of the traditional PUA “mindset”.
The first flawed idea that it is about attracting attention and that THIS is the main thing attraction and seduction would be riding on.
The second flawed idea being about establishing value (to try to fit into other people’s mindset and persuade them to grant you attention and this fake idea of power). Instead of resting calmly in your OWN power and expressing that.
I can resonate with that excerpt. I never tried to be anything other than me. Even when I when out to meet woman. I’d be the guy dressed in cargo pants a shirt and some regety sanuks. All the dudes that went out with me would be dressed to the 9’s. I was very successful. Savage and Steve are by far the best teachers of seduction I have had the privladge to learn from. They truly are outstanding.